Inspiring Will Smith Video – No Wonder He is So Amazingly Successful!

Here is an absolutely amazing Will Smith Video cut together from a bunch of his interviews on TV and from a few movies. What he says about success and achieving your dreams is spot on. Don’t be afraid to go get what you want, just know your goal, and work your ass of to get it. Don’t let people discourage you, if you want it, take the attitude that it’s already done, and now you’re just working your ass off to get there and show everybody that you were right.

This is a great video to visit if you start feeling discouraged. Keep your head up and remember, it’s already done, you just gotta work your butt off to get there and show everybody.

And never be worried about “dying on the treadmill.” Don’t be afraid to commit 100% to your goal and run full out faster, harder and longer than the other guy. The work will pay off.

What’s your Secret?
Ryan

The Power of Letting Go – A Sedona Method Test

The Sedona Method – What it is:

For those of you who don’t know what the Sedona Method is, it is a system designed for letting go of unwanted negative emotions. It asserts that deep down, we are all happy, vibrant people and that our natural state is one of joy and happiness. The problem si that all of that happiness becomes covered in layers of negative emotions and thougth patterns. So instead of experiencing our natural happiness on a consistnet basis, we feel the negative emotions most of the time. The Sedona Method offers a simple system to let go of all the negative emotions that you may be feeling and start experiencing life at a fuller, happier level more of the time. It can be used any where any time and with any negative emotion in any moment.

I know what you might be thinking, that won’t work for me, my problems are real, they’re different, they’re special.

While that may be true, the Sedona Method is so simple and flexible that you can address any problem, any emotion with it in the exact moment that you’re feeling it. So, no matter the emotion, you can let it go and feel better almost instantly.

The Sedona Method – What it’s Not

What the Sedona Method isn’t is another positive thinking or wishful thinking tool. This isn’t one of those, grin and bear it, paste a smiley face over your discomfort or fake it until you make it programs. Sometimes, you want to be angry.

Have you ever had someone remind you to think positively when you are pissed off? The minute they mention positive thougths, you think something like, I’m gonna take those positive thoughts and hit you with them!  How’s that for positive thinking?!?! When you’re angry, you can’t just jump to happy, it’s impossible, so thinking positively is just a way to pretend that you are happy, even if you just aren’t. The Sedona Method will help you strip away those negative feelings and get to the core of you that actually is happy in the moment.

The Sedona Method -Asserted Truths

Here are some truths that the Sedona Method operates from:

1. You are not your thoughts, feelings or limiting beliefs
2. You have the ability to let go of any thought or belief in any moment.
3. Beneath your limiting beliefs and negative thoughts and emotions, the core of you is happy, even if you think it isn’t.

Whether you think you can let go of your feelings or not, you can. The Sedona Method Shows you how.

The Sedona Method – My Personal Experience

I stay with using the Sedona Method for usually about 4-5 days and then I tend to slack off, this is my own unfocused nature I know. However, I have used it with great success in the past both in letting go of limiting beliefs and negative emotions.

I have used it to get past relationship hiccups, break ups and personal money beliefs. I have used it when conquering fears.

What I haven’t done however, is give it a full 3 week trial. During the trial I will let go of limiting beliefs as I notice them float into my consciousness and each day I will log at least once if my feelings have improved.

So, here is where I stand and how I feel today:

I feel good, I am getting a cold, but today was offered a film job (my biggest passion is film making) and confirmed another short film where I get to play the main character, step wildly outside my comfort zone and also serve as a location manager. That makes me feel extremely Amazing! I feel slightly unmotivated to move forward on a Fat Loss CD project I have been working on and am attempting to find a way to move forward or find another path with it. It is important to my new book launch, however, I feel stuck today.

I have written my new years goal list and one of them is very pressing. My businesses are requiring more time than I have, and I am ready to start hiring staff or freelancing work, but the cashflow has slumped due to some changes I made. I am working to find a way to start my staff or increase cashflow immediately so that I can continue with my grandiose plans.

I have been away from working out for some time, and I am ready to get back to the gym. Mind you I still work out at home, but there is some satisfaction in walking out of the gym sweating and feeling that fresh air.

My fiance and I are selling our house and trying to buy a new one…I fell very hopeful about this.

I feel very excited to get back to posting on the Secret To Your Life as it is a passion of mine.

Well, that was a mouthful and probably more than anyone really wanted to know, but I wanted to leave a baseline concerning my main thoughts and feelings in this moment so that I can revisit them and any results at the end of the test.

I will post results at the end of 3 weeks.

Now, my question for you, do you have experience with the Sedona Method? Have you used it in the past? What were your results?

For more information about the Sedona Method, go to http://www.bloomverse.com/blog/

His recent post is what inspired this test and I thank him for it. His free ebook is a great resource to get you started instantly so that you can feel the power of the Sedona Method for yourself.

You can also learn more at http://www.sedona.com/

Have a Great Day,

Ryan

The Rules of Zen

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A Master and a Student are sitting on a hill in meditation the master holds up his hand to speak with one finger extended.

“The first rule of Zen is,” The Master begins, “You do not talk about Zen.”

“What’s the second rule?” Asks the student.

“The second rule of what?”

Enjoy Your Day Today,

Ryan

What you see is What you…Think???

The Level of our Success is only Limited by our Imagination – Aesop

Everything you See is the Result of Your Thoughts, There is no exception to This Fact – A Course in Miracles

Quotes similar to these have been said by wise women and men throughout history, so what does it mean?

What you focus on you get.

That which you think, so shall you be.

Like attracts like.

It means that your thoughts can actually create your life.  Whether in a metaphysical sense, or a purely psychological sense, what you think opens or closes opportunity for you.  What you focus on can open doors and show you synchronicities that you may otherwise not have had available to you, and if you’re a believer in the law of attraction, what you think, your thoughts and feelings can even help to determine what people are around you in traffic and how they react.

So if your thoughts creat your life, what can you do to improve life?

Focus on things that truly bring you joy.  Not things that you think are supposed to make you happy, or things that kind of make you happy, but things (people, places and events) that actually bring a smile to your face or offer you some feeling of relief.

For me personally, I think of the people I love, my kids and family, I focus on playing with them, talking to them or just hanging out.  I also focus on my car, because I love my car.  It has been one of my dream cars for over 9 years, and I finally got it, and I drive it every day, if for no other reason than to go down the block and be in my car.  These are things that truly bring me joy.

What kinds of things bring you joy?  Focus on these things, not the problems with them, but the things you love about them.  Even if you think it’s all baloney, you will be in a much happier state for the time being, and isn’t happiness what we all crave so much?

If you really need a pep up, try to slip away to a private place, even if it’s just a public restroom, and take a few breaths and think about things that make you happy.

How can this change your life?

Well, happy and successful people tend to hang out with happy and successful people.  They all focus on things they love and enjoy, and do similar things.  Focusing on the negatives will only get you more negative people and experiences in life.  We all have bad things happen to us, it’s how you react that makes you who you are.

So try focusing more on things you love and less on things you don’t.  Do more things that are fun and less that aren’t.  It seems like simple advice, but if you walk into any office building, you will see that it’s much needed.

What you think shapes your life, your mood, and your focus.  Think Good thoughts, and focus on things  you want more of.  You will have more of them.

I hope this finds you well,

Ryan

I Have More Important Things to Do – The Gentle Art of Ignoring

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At the end of the day, most people who have big projects on their plates also have big to do lists on their desk. Each day, this to do list will have a few things crossed off, but more will be added for the next day, and then it the list is never actually done. So how do we remedy this? How can we get more done with the same amount of time we have each day? It’s often a matter of ignoring large chunks of our list.

Ignore my to do list?!? You must be insane!!!!!

Nope, not really, because I’m not talking about avoiding things, I’m talking about getting the big important things done first and ignoring that small easy stuff for a while. Think about it, if you get the big or scary stuff done right away, you will no longer dread doing it, and will be able to easily tackle the smaller, easier things that are filling up your list.

Below are a few simple tips you can use to get more important things done today and make leaps and bounds toward your goals.

Do the Worst First

As I mentioned previously, doing the worst, hardest, or most impactful thing on your to do list will free up your energy so that you can focus on easier things for the rest of the day. Renowned Author Brian Tracy says to wake up each day and “Eat That Frog,” do the hardest, worst list item first, and you will be ahead of 99% of the people who put it off indefinitely.

We all have at least one of these types of items on our list. It’s the one that makes us want to go watch TV or call a friend. The one we don’t look at because we’re “trying to get some of the quick stuff done first.” It’s always there though, and that’s the thing that separates people who get things done from those who don’t, the ability to swallow their fear and face those big list items head on.

If you have at least one of these things on your list, find it and face it. Do it now, or it will never get done. It should be your Only goal for the day, and until it is done, you can’t work on any other list items. Talk about putting a hold on your progress, if you want to get any of that other stuff done, and it may all be important, you need to finish that tough list item. You better get it done fast. In fact, you should get it done now, then finish reading this article, unless it involves calling someone and it’s 3 am. That might not be a great idea.

Ignore Interruptions for 1 Hour

Many of the highest achievers in the world use this technique, and it works wonders if you actually do it. It allows you to focus 100% of your energy on your target for a short period of time, and usually you will get more done during this time than any other time combined.

What you want to do is get rid of the opportunity for any interruptions. This means silencing the phone, turning off Youtube, shutting down facebook and the messengers, turning off the music if it has words that can distract you, and shutting your door so that it is just you and your goal.

When you do this and focus only on your goal, your entire mental capacity is spent only on that goal. Put a sign on the door and try to spend at least 1 hour achieving your goals. As long as you know what needs to be done, you can speed through your list and by the end of your hour, you will have done a full day worth of slow paced distracted work.

Some people call this an hour of power, but if you don’t have an hour, focus for 15 minutes. If you don’t have that, start with 5. After you have done this for a while, you will be unable to deny the power of focusing completely on your goal, and I am certain you will be able to find at least an hour in your day to tear through your to do list.

Set a Deadline

It has been proven by millions of college students that if you have a deadline, no matter how close it is, you can bust your ass and get what you need done. I know people who have had months to do a project and put it off only to finish it in two days and still get a good grade from the teacher. Since all of us have experienced this phenomenon in one way or another, why don’t we use it to our advantage?

I actually use this when I have to clean my house. I don’t enjoy cleaning, and because I have 3 kids here, plus me so realistically, 4 kids, the house get’s super cluttered very quick. So if I have to clean the kitchen, and it would normally take me about an hour, I set a goal to do it in 15 minutes. It is fun to see if I can do it, get’s the task done quickly, and is a nice challenge for me. By the way, I never go more than 5 minutes over my goal. I set a timer and I race the timer. It’s a great way to get the goal completed and off my list, and the house looks nice afterward.

This is another time when you are going to be forced to ignore all interruptions in order to meet your deadline. You must put the phone away and lock the door, you need this time to yourself. Doing this will allow you to have much more time to call back all the people who left you messages, and spend more time doing what you want.

Is there something on your list that is time consuming that you might be able to put on a deadline? Could you do it if you absolutely had to? If so, why aren’t you? It’s time to set a deadline and do it now.

The Art of Ignoring is something that the people around you will have to get used to. Some are going to be jealous because of your ability to achieve, and some are going to be hurt or annoyed that you ignored their call or can’t talk with them for a few minutes, but doing so will give you the chance to get more done than most of them will ever do in a single day.

Schedule a time today that you have at least 1 hour uninterrupted to achieve your goals, I guarantee that if you use the time properly, you won’t regret it.

I hope this finds you well,
Ryan

Get Less Done for a Better Life

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I know this title may seem ludicrous, but I’m not suggesting you stop doing, and I’m not suggesting you stop achieving.  What I am suggesting is that you take a break from all the stress of life and start to just enjoy your life just a little more.  Take more time with your kids, your lover, your friends and enjoy this life.  You only get this moment to do once, so use it wisely.  Get the most important things done first, then enjoy some time doing what you love, after all, that’s why most people want more money, more time, more things, to do and have what they love.

Start now.

It’s never too soon to start living, but one day it will be too late.

Make Someone’s Day Today

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Standing in line at the grocery store today I noticed that everybody just goes through the same motions while checking out.  They nod to the cashier, say hello, answer any required questions and generally move through each line like zombies.  I realized that in most of our day-to-day transactions, most of us do this exact same thing.  We move through life like zombies, feigning connection with other people.

Does it have to be this way?  Of course not, but we have become so used to it that it doesn’t seem abnormal to never remember your server at a restaurant, never learn the name of the teller at the bank, never actually meet the people we meet.  We can of course do better, we just don’t.

What would it cost us to give the people we meet a couple of minutes of actual attention, and what would the reward be?

If we would just take a few minutes each time we meet someone to have a real human connection with them and actually smile and talk with them, chances are that most of them will respond positively.  In fact, for the most part, if you smile and treat someone genuinely rather than as a shopping cart zombie, you will find that most of the time, you have made that persons day.  You can see it in their eyes and in the way they say good day to you.

The next time you’re out at the store or the bank or a drive through, try to make that persons day with your interaction.  It’s not that hard, all it usually requires is a smile.

I hope this finds you well,

Ryan

Push Your Limits, Face Your Fears

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Ask some of your peers what they have done new and exciting lately, and most of them will say no, ask them when they faced a fear last, and they probably won’t know.  In fact, when was the last time you purposely broke up your routine, did something new, or pushed your own limits?

It seems we all get stuck into a routine and that’s the life we live until something shakes us up and we start to explore, but aren’t the people we admire most in this world the people who seek out adventure?  Aren’t they the Entrepreneurs who took a chance and stretched the limits?  If we admire people like this so much, why aren’t we stepping out and stretching our own limits?

Comfort

Let’s face it.  We’re all creatures of habit and doing anything outside of our normal routine is uncomfortable.  Especially if the activity is initially uncomfortable as well (Example: public speaking.)   Who in this world would naturally want to be uncomfortable?  Isn’t comfort part of happiness? Isn’t comfort what we all seek?

I would venture to say that the only way to find comfort in life is to actually seek out ways to be uncomfortable.  I’m not saying you should become a contortionist tomorrow, but push the limits of your comfort zone, physically, mentally and socially.  The most successful and happy people in this world step into discomfort regularly, it’s often how they became happy and successful.

Fear

Every one of us is scared of taking risks.  No matter what the risk, it is scary and we can only reduce that fear by facing it, defining it and pushing through it.  Let me give you a very personal example.

I have an illogical fear of lake water/ocean water that I can’t see the bottom of.  I don’t know why, maybe too many lake or ocean attack movies through my life, I don’t know, but when I get into a lake or on a boat or in the ocean, I panic.  Even the thought of jumping into water I can’t see the bottom of will send me hyperventilating.  That being said, several of my goals in life have to do with being in water.  I want to swim with sharks, get certified in scuba diving and become a master kayaker.  How can I do all that with a fear of water?  I can’t.   So this last week I decided to test myself.  I went to a little stream that has very deep pools underneath the waterfalls.  It’s a beautiful place, but the thought of getting into 20 foot deep water is terrifying.  So I stood on the edge and defined the fear.  I asked myself these questions:

What am I afraid of?

The unknown, giant shark men, swamp thing, who knows.

What are the chances that anything will happen?

Almost None.

So why am I letting this fear stop me?

Don’t know.

Could I move through this and just try it once?

Yes.

I’m not going to say I jumped right in.  I had to think and slow my breathing and heart rate because I was panicking at the edge of the water and I didn’t want to panic once I got in.  But after about 5 minutes of staring at the water, I eased myself off the rocks and took a short swim. After that I jumped in. after that I dove in and didn’t come back out.  It was a blast, and I am a lot less afraid of water now.  I will be going again tonight to face a much bigger lake.

I defined the fear and tried to logically break it down so that I could reduce my resistance to water.  I have now been kayaking and can say I’m actually excited to go again.  The fear is still there, but it’s getting less and less.  I pushed past my limits and am establishing new comfort zones.

This works the same for anything in life, whether it be fear of water, heights or something to do with your business or relationship.  Define the fear and push past it so you can establish a new comfort zone.  It may be scary, but it’s not as scary as not doing it, no matter what it is.

Push it

Choose something to do that is outside your comfort zone and do it.  Maybe you can sing at karaoke, talk to a stranger, ask that girl or guy on a date or face a fear.  Maybe you can just try a new hobby or meet a new friend.  It’s up to you to do it.  You have to make life an adventure, going to work and watching TV each night won’t do it for you.

Push past your comfort zones this week and you will start to enjoy life a lot more and realize that you have very few real limits in life.

I hope this finds you well.

Ryan

Do Something NEW!!!

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The past few weeks I’ve been having some fresh new experiences, and I have to tell you, it is so Exciting!

Doing new things is a great way to keep life fresh and exciting, meet new friends and add more hobby’s to your list of things you love.

Just this week I have –

-Swam in a freshwater stream
-Gone Fishing at midnight
-Gone Kayaking on a lake
-Written a short film
-Gone Hiking through one of the most beautiful canyons in the Black Hills

And I still have to go try racquetball and stream kayaking this week.

I didn’t set the week out trying to do something new, but I have been having more and more new experiences lately, and I’ve just been trying to enjoy them all.

Have you done anything new or exciting lately?  Or has it been the same old routine?

Why not do something new this week and start living your life and stretching your comfort zones?

Here are a few suggestions of things you might do that will break up your routine:

1.    Go Kayaking (this was a blast for me and I’m afraid of water)
2.    Go Hiking
3.    Visit a new place, park, store or coffee shop
4.    Study a second Language
5.    Read a book you wouldn’t normally pick up.
6.    Take a Dance Class
7.    Start a Martial Arts or Self Defense class
8.    Join a gym or go to the one you haven’t been to in a while.
9.    Book a cruise or cheap vacation
10.    Find a quiet spot and just relax or meditate
11.    picnic in a park instead of the drive thru
12.    Go to a mall or public place and people watch.

These are just a few suggestions, but hopefully they’ll get you thinking about something new that you can do to spice up your life and start enjoying it a bit more.

Just pick 1 thing to do this week, or even today and do it.  Don’t wait, Tomorrow will always be tomorrow, today is all you have.

I hope this finds you well,
Ryan

Attitude of Appreciation

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No matter who we are or where we are from, there is one thing we all have in common.  We all seek happiness with everything we do in life.  No matter what we are doing, we do it in order to gain pleasure, happiness, or avoid pain and avoiding pain is just another way of seeking happiness.

In our current culture of achievement, it seems that everybody is always setting goals and doing more in order to get more.  It’s always about more more more.  We set goals, achieve them, celebrate and set a new goal.

There is a problem with this thought pattern though.  Everybody gets into the habit of constantly working toward an end goal and only taking time to enjoy life when a goal is achieved.  Then the celebration ends and we move onto a new goal.

This means that most of us who buy into the achievement culture are only celebrating, or enjoying life when we have achieved a goal.  Which leads me to the question?  Why are we working so hard to find more happiness and only enjoying it for a little while before setting a new goal?  Doesn’t that defeat the purpose of the goal achievement?

The problem seems to be that we don’t appreciate what we actually have now until it’s gone.  Otherwise we keep achieving and setting more goals.  But what would life be like if we could enjoy what we have now while still attaining for more?  My guess is, life would be a joy.

It’s really not as hard as people make it to just appreciate the things we have now.  Think about it.  What would your life be like if you didn’t have TV, Computer, Phones, Cars, even simpler stuff like nice shoes or clothes.  Wouldn’t you miss these things if they were gone?  Why not consciously appreciate them now.  Find things you have now in your life and begin to appreciate them.

My Personal Experience:

I tend to get caught up in achievement thinking and I take things in life for granted.  I was reminded of all that I had, and currently have to appreciate when my long time relationship ended.

It seems we never appreciate someone as much as when they are gone.  We still remain friends, so it wasn’t ugly, but not having her here has reminded me of all that I could have appreciated.  So I have started by ending each night with about 5-10 minutes of deliberate appreciation.  I think of all the things in my life and things that happened during the day that I can be appreciative of.  This usually helps me break from the stressful routine of the day and change my state of mind before I lie down in bed.  It has improved my mindset dramatically.

It’s said that an attitude of appreciation will bring you more things to appreciate.  If you try it out for a few days, you’ll find this to be true.

Do yourself a favor, take a few moments at the end of the day and just appreciate some of the things you have in life right now.  It will improve your life, your attitude and will remind you that you always have something to be grateful for, no matter what’s happening in your life.

Have a wonderful Day!

Ryan